So as you do this work today, how does it affect YOUR identity, your sense of balance? By stepping off the sidelines, you are taking a huge step towards finding your balance. You have converted yourselves from frustrated victims to activists, directing your biography. I hope many of you succeed in your quest to become parents. But as I’ve learned from speaking with so many people who have gone through treatment, regardless of whether they become parents or not, this experience, this disease, remains a part, but hopefully not all, of their identity. Bitterness? Anger? I’d be lying to tell you that it won’t exist. Your self esteem, however, will come from what you do with it.