Recommended Reading: "Fury: True Tales of a Good Girl Gone Ballistic" by Koren Zailckas

I picked this up thinking the book would explore anger and gender, a theme I’ve become very interested in since my experiences with infertility. I was pleasantly surprised to find the focus of the memoir to be anger and family-of-origin. I devoured the book, enjoyed her writing, and am keen for my husband to read it immediately. Anger can be a valid, productive emotion, when experienced in the present. 

Triggers: pregnancy, miscarriage (which are both handled *very* kindly in the book, and most infertiles will relate to her fear-filled experiences.) 

Unite for the Family Act

Lend RESOLVE your status on Twitter or Facebook on May 8th, and help us amplify our advocacy for The Family Act and affordable access to fertility treatments. Just follow this link, sign in with your Twitter or Facebook account, and join our Thunderclap. If 300 people sign up, the application will automatically post to your status on May 8th! How cool is that? <<Insert thunder noises here.>> 

Support RESOLVE's Advocacy Day!

If you can’t make it to DC on May 8th for RESOLVE’s Advocacy Day, fear not - you can advocate from anywhere! Your advocacy is always important, and will only help amplify what those in DC will be doing.

  1. Learn about the issues that RESOLVE will be advocating for on Advocacy Day. (These bills have not yet been introduced, so we don’t have the bill number for you yet. Stay tuned!)
  2. Learn how the legislative process works. (“I’m Just a Bill” is actually a good intro.) 
  3. Find out who your Senate and Congressional Representatives are.
  4. Follow your Reps on Twitter or Facebook.
  5. Write or call your Reps on Advocacy Day (May 8th!) in support of our issues.
  6. Ask your supporters and followers to write or call their Reps on Advocacy. We want every office on Capital Hill to hear about infertility on Advocacy Day!
  7. Blog about why Advocacy Day is important to you, and what you’re doing to support RESOLVE’s issues.
  8. Follow RESOLVE on Twitter, Facebook, YouTube, and Instagram (@resolveorg). 
  9. Follow your fellow advocates on social media, and help them amplify their messages on Advocacy Day. Likes, RTs, and online support can make help a difference! 

RESOLVE will have more on how you can support Advocacy Day soon! 

Meet Your Advocates!

If you’re attending #advocacyday2013, I’d love to get to know you a bit before we meet next week! Just answer these questions on your blog, and let me know you did! 
1. Where are you in your infertility journey right now? In one sentence! 
Grateful to be parenting (via domestic open-adoption) after 3.5 years of TTC, 2 IUIs, 1 IVF, 1 miscarriage, endometriosis diagnosis, many tears, and far too many episodes of the Gilmore Girls. 
2. What inspired you to go to RESOLVE Advocacy Day 2013?
I attended my first Advocacy Day last year, and it changed my life. I’ve never felt so empowered, engaged, and effective in speaking about an issue I care deeply about. Advocacy Day makes a difference, and there’s nothing I want more than to pass The Family Act!
3. What do you want Congress to understand about infertility?
That infertility is a treatable disease, and thousands of families cannot access proper healthcare because of the high cost of treatment and lack of insurance coverage.
4. What are you most looking forward to about Advocacy Day?
Walking the halls of Congress and taking part in our democratic process! There is truly nothing else like it. (Ok, and having a cocktail with my fellow advocates!)
5. What is one thing that other advocates will be surprised to learn about you when they meet you?
I’m afraid of spiders. But I’m not afraid of talking about my uterus in public! (You probably already knew that, though.) 

Meet some of the advocates who will be at Advocacy Day this year!

Fran Meadows


Miss Ohkay

Whitney Anderson 






Personal Assessment Tool RESOLVE: The National Infertility Association

If you’re struggling to get pregnant, and wondering if you need to take steps to understand why, this tool might help. 

Welcome to the Fertility 5 Personal Assessment Tool from RESOLVE. You are taking the first steps in understanding your fertility and creating a plan for your family building journey. At the end of the survey, RESOLVE will provide you with information you need to take the next step.”

The Brian Lehrer Show - Adoption and the Culture Wars

A sermon on infertility from Rabbi Marc Katz at Congregation Beth Elohim in Brooklyn

From the blog of "Not When, But IF": Why we need advocates and Advocacy Day

Fertility Scorecard

What an amazing tool! The Fertility Scorecard provides an at-a-glance overview of how different states support the infertility community, through legislation, insurance coverage, and healthcare. 


From RESOLVE: “Every day at RESOLVE we hear the struggles that women and men face as they navigate their family building journey.  Whether it’s not enough support, lack of insurance coverage, or legislation that threatens their ability to build their family, people with infertility often face an uphill battle.

RESOLVE is proud to announce the release of the first-ever Fertility Scorecard. The Fertility Scorecard measures a state’s “fertility-friendliness,” and looks at access to medical care, access to emotional support, and how state legislation impacts family building options.”

Meet me at RESOLVE's Advocacy Day!

Meet me at Advocacy Day in DC on May 8th - we’ll talk to Congress about the reality of infertility and how they can help our community build families. It will be fun and awesome and powerful and life changing. I promise. This video (featuring Whitney Anderson, Katie Shaber, and myself) will answer you questions about attending this amazing day of action!

Sign up for Resolve’s Advocacy Day and join in is speaking out about infertility!